sweet-obedient asked: I been wanting to experience Domming a women. I have talked about it with My Deacon(Master/boyfriend)and he finally found a woman that he believes I will be comfortable with. Them met around the same time I met him, and he chilled with her went to coffee and dinner. I'm okay with that I'm not jealous or mad. But idk how to feel about Domming her. I want too. I feel excited and nervous and feel like I'm not gonna do anything right and Deacon's gonna be disappointed. Is this a normal feeling?HELP
It’s completely normal to be nervous! Topping someone is a daunting task and being nervous is perfectly okay :).
They’re both aware that it’s a new thing, and I honestly don’t think anyone is expecting you to develop magical Domme skills overnight. Everyone starts somewhere.
If having a game plan helps, maybe sit and think of the things you’re most interested in trying as a top. Then compare notes with her. It might help ease nerves on both sides if there’s a bit of a plan.
Just have fun with it. That’s the important part. There will be giggles and mishaps, that happens to EVERYONE. Sometimes it’s through those silly blunders that we bond and develop a comfort level.
You’ve got this :).
naughty-girls-get-spanked asked: I am single and intrigued by the BDSM lifestyle, and would like to explore it, but as part of a 'traditional' romantic relationship. Would you recommend that I look for a Dom, and hope that I find one I like, or look for a guy I like, and hope he will be open to dominating me?
Well, it really depends on where your own personal interests lie.
Are you interested in the bedroom aspects, or a power exchange? If you’re looking for a partner who is open to experimenting in the bedroom you probably wouldn’t have a difficult time finding a vanilla partner who enjoys bedroom kinks.
Finding a compatible partner who’s interested in the responsibility that comes with a power exchange can prove a little more difficult and sometimes needs a different approach. Sometimes people do get lucky, they pair up with someone and they both realize they’re open to the same things. However, us kinky folk are vastly outnumbered in the vanilla dating pool.
I’d recommend figuring out exactly what interests you have, and go from there.
I just know it can be frustrating to become deeply involved with and attached to someone only to come out of the kinky closet and discover their needs and boundaries are polar opposites to your needs.
I hope this helped :).